Supporting a loser will make you love sport
By Vanilla Gorilla, 21 May 2012 Vanilla Gorilla is a Roar Pro
- Tagged:
- AFL, baseball, Boston Red Sox, football, Geelong Cats, Manchester City
Related coverage
A friend of mine got into a rather heated discussion with a young lady who claimed that “people who watch sport, rather then play it, are wasting their lives”.
This prompted a 40-minute rant from said friend who promoted the benefits of watching sport.
There are several reasons why someone does not play sport and chooses to watch instead. They may have career ending injuries, be supremely uncoordinated, lazy, devoid of time to train twice a week and give up a whole Saturday for sport, or they might just enjoy it.
What ever their reason, not everyone can play.
I just wish this young lady could have witnessed the final day of the EPL season and then attempted to make this argument. By now we all know what happened and how remarkable it was, so I shall avoid a recap, but more look at how an event like this, supporting a loser and sport in general, effect our lives.
I can not think of another activity that can churn you through a hurricane of emotion in such a short period of time. In the space of four minutes City fans went from utter despair, to hopeful and then to borderline riots of joy. This was made more intense given their history of choking, under performing and their 40 year premiership drought.
It seemed appropriate that the hoodoo was broken in this way. It is the way of a loser.
If you support one of these perennial losers, like me supporting the All Blacks in the Rugby World Cup, you convince yourself that you accept the inevitable heart break you are about to receive. You casually convince your friends that you already know that you are going to lose. You understand the certainty of the whole thing. However deep inside you still hold the faintest hope that it will turn around.
When your team loses, you tell everyone you are neither surprised or affected. “Hey, I told you this was going to happen” nonchalantly comes out of your mouth, while deep down you are still bitterly disappointed.
When your team is in a funk like this, it takes a monumental event to break the curse. You never have a standard win or regulation result.
Geelong fans had suffered through 40 years of VFL/AFL irrelevance and continually failed to get the job done. Then came the record breaking 119 point grand final victory over Port Adelaide. They did not just beat them, they annihilated them and then went on to dominate the league for the next four years.
The All Blacks were red hot favourites for every Rugby World Cup since its inception in 1987. After winning the inaugural tournament in New Zealand they went on a 24 year heart breaking journey. The fans suffered through many years of disappointment, lynched many coaches and chased players out of the country.
This stinky streak was broken in the most remarkable fashion. They won the final on the same ground against the same opposition from ’87 with the final score being 8-7. Spooky!
The Boston Red Sox fans had to suffer through the Curse of the Bambino. The Red Sox were a dominant force with Babe Ruth and won numerous World Series. He was then traded to the Yankees who had never won one. Since this fateful day in 1920, the Yankees have won 26 World Series and up until 2004, the Sox had 0.
Come 2004 this all changed and they managed to break the curse in the most spectacular way. They beat the Yankees in a seven game series by being the first team in baseball history to come from 3-0 deficit in a finals series. They then went on to sweep the cardinals in the World Series.
It is by supporting these perennial losers that you appreciate the meaning of sport. By associating yourselves with these teams you can be pulled into the abyss of despair and frustration, only to be dragged, once all had seemed lost, kicking and screaming into the belief that this is your teams year. It provides those of us who care, with an emotional outlet.
Not to say the supporters of dominant teams, such as the Canterbury Crusaders do not feel a vast range of emotion, in fact they experience the exact opposite of the cellar dwellers. Winning is expected and in defeated, anguish ensues. Answers need to be found because it is preposterous that they actually lost. But, ultimately, it is far easier to support a successful team than a loser.
Say you have two children, one of which is a genius, the other a drop out. One is a sign of success and easy to love, the other is frustrating but if any small thing is achieved it seems 10 fold to what it actually is. Its all about expectation management.
Some people watch stage shows, others watch movies, we watch sport.
The cathartic release, range of emotion and the sense of camaraderie provide us with a situation where we can still unleash large amounts of testosterone and experience the feeling we once had playing competitive amateur sport.
Much like professional athletes, the amateur has similar issues when leaving the contact sport you love. Sure we have our day jobs waiting for us but there seems to be a piece of you missing once you retire from you division 4-B Grade rugby team. Sure, you were never that good, but there is a sense of team and group companionship that is hard to find if you have never played a team sport.
By watching professional sport we can find that sense of team. You know the players names, you have some of their back stories. They almost feel like old mates you have not seen in a while. You want them to succeed and you often yell advice at them during a game, which is not always constructive.
You become staunchly patriotic about your side and are willing to defend it at any time when it is questioned. You will happily debate your chances, other teams and the entire competition in general. It provides us with an opportunity to stand around a BBQ and start heated conversation while we watch meat burn.
This is sport; this is why I love it. It brings multitudes of people together and if you are a sports polygamist like me, then it provides endless enjoyment, frustration, hatred, wonder and most of all a sense of belonging and camaraderie that can be achieved by few other activities.
It’s kinda like being married, except when you leave the ground at the end of the game you do not have to leave half of your belongings behind.
![]()
Passionate about your football? Then sign up to The Roar's brand new daily football email, delivering Roaring articles directly to you day-in, day-out. You'll love it!
Click here to join now!
Looking to join The Roar team? We're searching for an experienced Group Sales Manager to lead our team in Sydney. Yes, this does mean you get to work with the site all day long! If you're a digital media sales star, we want to hear from you. Apply now.
Do you have what it takes to become a sports writer? Write for the roar
Football articles
- What A-League matches should be on Friday night FTA? (159)
- Are we supporting the Soccerwhos? (127)
- Scrap the A-League finals and replace it with State of Origin (114)
- Osieck announces Socceroos squad for World Cup Qualifiers (98)
- The mainstream media continues to ignore football (98)
- English football has drama Aussie sport can’t replicate (95)
- The FA Cup final lost its lustre long ago (93)
- Borussia Dortmund vs Bayern Munich: Champions League Final blog (88)
- Oliver Torres and Marco Verratti, the next Xavi and Pirlo? (4)
- Football fans need to forgive Channel Seven (44)
- Channel Seven to broadcast Liverpool, Man United friendlies (91)
- We must learn from Guangzhou humbling (48)
- Socceroos need to give up on World Cup (89)
- Assessing the 2013/14 A-League draw (15)
- Borussia Dortmund vs Bayern Munich: Champions League Final blog (88)
- Oliver Torres and Marco Verratti, the next Xavi and Pirlo? (4)
- Football fans need to forgive Channel Seven (44)
- Socceroos need to give up on World Cup (89)
- Assessing the 2013/14 A-League draw (15)
- Scrap the A-League finals and replace it with State of Origin (115)
- AS Monaco’s taxing promotion to Ligue 1 (17)
Recommend this story.
- Explore:
- AFL, baseball, Boston Red Sox, football, Geelong Cats, Manchester City


May 21st 2012 @ 8:03am
Rabbitz said | May 21st 2012 @ 8:03am | Report comment
Are you sure the young lass didn’t say:
“people who watch sport, rather than, play it, are wasting their lives”?
May 21st 2012 @ 8:43am
nordster said | May 21st 2012 @ 8:43am | Report comment
Good blog, each team has its own ambitions even the losers … Ie those at the bottom, still climbing up the ranks. Relevant to the whole pro/rel debate. I guess they can be winners in the second division to give a taste of silverware and what might be ahead in the top division. It’s the beauty of this open system in football. You don’t have everyone chasing the same prize.
May 21st 2012 @ 9:44am
Phil Coorey said | May 21st 2012 @ 9:44am | Report comment
I’m a Red Sox (went to 28 games in 31 days in 2004 after going through countless days of misery) and West Ham fan – I thrive on mostly misery it seems – love all my teams with all my heart.
I’ve been through countless days of hell , I was once described on a baseball website as being “one bad orange away from a heart attack” – when West Ham won on Sunday morning – I cried
So I guess we could say I liked the article above…
May 21st 2012 @ 12:07pm
Xavier said | May 21st 2012 @ 12:07pm | Report comment
Phil,
I am in the exxact same boat. West Ham and Red Sox. Sunday morning was one of the greatest moments of what has been a sorry life of loving the loveable losers of world sport.
COYI
May 21st 2012 @ 1:38pm
Phil Coorey said | May 21st 2012 @ 1:38pm | Report comment
Xavier ! What a great day – the Chelsea victory was an after thought (as it should be for any Hammers fan)
In 2005 when the Hammers won on Memorial Day over Preston , I watched the game in New York at a bar then flew up to Boston to watch the Sox play at Fenway – one of my favourite days ever
Sox had a good win this morning but have dug themselves into a serious hole – but I am loving supporting this team – Middlebrooks is coming along great as is Dubront – Ortiz is just a joy to watch as is Pedroia – long way to go and hopefully they can sneak into the playoffs.
May 21st 2012 @ 12:06pm
Wasp said | May 21st 2012 @ 12:06pm | Report comment
I understand as a long time long term West Ham sufferer. But hey I still support them after 40 odd years of up and downs.
Over the weekend it was a huge high as we are back in the EPL. I hope we stay.
I also support Borussia Monchengladbach in the German League, yes another team that is up and down, maybe I am one of those supporters who follow a team that is a drama in itself.
Two seasons ago they managed to just retain their position in the first tier to this year finish at a high 4th, what a turn around in one season on. They like West Ham have trouble holding players, they just don’t have the money like the big guns, so they may find the new season they may struggle again.
Oh well that is the life of a supporter.
May 21st 2012 @ 12:39pm
Chris said | May 21st 2012 @ 12:39pm | Report comment
Whats your favorite soccer team? “Manchester United”.
Oh really, ever been there? “No”
Parents from there? “No”
Any conceivable link with Manchester in any way, shape or form? “No”
So why do you go for Manchester United? “Oh, I just always liked them, you know”
So of all the thousands of soccer teams around the world you just happened to randomly pick the richest and most sucessful as your team? “Um”.
Insert same answers for LA Lakers, NY Yankees and Detroit Red Wings fans. Everyknow knows at least one tosser who supports all four of those teams. Worse still is the person who was a massive Roger Federer fan until two years ago and is now equally passionate about Novak Djokovic.
May 21st 2012 @ 12:59pm
Vanilla Gorilla said | May 21st 2012 @ 12:59pm | Report comment
There are many fair weather fans and they can be rather frustrating indeed. I currently support the follwing and explains the writting of the article
Wellington Hurricanes (love losing in semi finals)
NZ Warriors (easily the most frustrating team in the world to support)
Buffalo Bills (Lost 4 Superbowls and are yet to win one)
Essendon, after their glory days (AKA “the knights saga)
Boston Celtics (Up until recently they were aweful)
May 21st 2012 @ 1:39pm
Phil Coorey said | May 21st 2012 @ 1:39pm | Report comment
I have that conversation with so many people – spot on. Hard to feel sorry for any United fan to be honest
I’m all Boston teams except the Patriots (I’m Redskins) , West Ham and South Sydney
Played Union all my life but refuse to really follow a team, like following the game from a distance.
May 21st 2012 @ 5:43pm
are you having a laugh (ricky gervais) said | May 21st 2012 @ 5:43pm | Report comment
Chris – thanks for the laugh. i love the absolute no connection to a team that happens to be successful (very) that people just coincidentally support.
a work colleague born in malaysia who then immigrated to australia as a child who supports Manchester United, the All Blacks in union, Brisbane Broncos and doesn’t mind Brisbane Roar. i did ask how he came to support the All Blacks – it was the first union game he had seen and they were so good he had to support them from then on. i’m sure there is another very big team in another sport he follows but it escapes me now.
May 23rd 2012 @ 7:24pm
BrisbaneBhoy said | May 23rd 2012 @ 7:24pm | Report comment
Chris,
you can ask those first five questions to most people who “follow/support” a foreign team/s (big or small) and the majority of the replies will be very similar as to those you mentioned.
I always finds it fascinating how people can “support/follow” (1) multiple teams (and 2) from places/countries they have never been too/have no connection with.
May 21st 2012 @ 12:50pm
Stevo said | May 21st 2012 @ 12:50pm | Report comment
Is it like following Footscray in the AFL – Western Bulldogs for some. Born in Footscray, raised in Yarraville and consigned to a life of misery. Would you have it any other way? Hell NO! At least they’re still kicking along unlike Footscray JUST.
May 21st 2012 @ 2:59pm
MelbCro said | May 21st 2012 @ 2:59pm | Report comment
Best thing that ever happened in the history of this nation is the destruction of Footscray JUST.
May 21st 2012 @ 3:43pm
Stevo said | May 21st 2012 @ 3:43pm | Report comment
Wow big call but it didn’t seem that way to me when I was playing juniours for them!
May 21st 2012 @ 12:53pm
dunny said | May 21st 2012 @ 12:53pm | Report comment
Completely agree!
I support South Adelaide in the SANFL who haven’t won a premiership since 1964, well before I was born. They have only looked like it twice since then and curren’ty don’t look close. But do I give up on them? No! I support them and am truly honoured to go and see them when they make the finals and inevitably fail to make the big one. So to those supporters of teams that are always up the top, enjoy the good times as you never know when the next one will come along.
May 21st 2012 @ 1:31pm
Ben of Phnom Penh said | May 21st 2012 @ 1:31pm | Report comment
V-Varen Nagasaki
May 21st 2012 @ 1:35pm
JohnL said | May 21st 2012 @ 1:35pm | Report comment
Blackburn Rovers
May 21st 2012 @ 1:43pm
Phil Coorey said | May 21st 2012 @ 1:43pm | Report comment
One other story – people kept asking me who my Premier League team was once the Hammers were relegated – I swear I must have said 1000 times “that my team is West Ham” There is no one else
May 21st 2012 @ 2:31pm
Rob Gremio said | May 21st 2012 @ 2:31pm | Report comment
I hear you Phil. I support Sheffield Wednesday, who, by the way, just got promoted again to the Championship, after coming second in League 1.
Go the Owls.
My other team is Gremio Foot-Ball Porto Alegrense in Brazil, who are a “big club” in Brazil, but have only ever won the Campeonato Brasileiro twice, once in the early 1980s and again in the mid-1990s. They are “big” because in 1983 they won the Copa Libertadores and the World Club Challenge (over Hamburg SV of Germany), and won the Copa again in 1995 (back when Mario Jardel was fit and awesome, not fat and slow like when he was at Newcastle Jets!). Sure, they’ve won the Brazilian Cup 4 times (and in the quarter finals this year too), but that is considered small beer by many in Brazil, because all the clubs that qualified for the Copa Libertadores do not play in the Brazilian Cup, because the match schedules don’t line up. Gremio got relegated from the Brazilian Serie A in 2004, and bounced straight back up (in remarkable circumstances) in 2005, with a little known coach named Mano Menezes at the helm.
Of course, for him to become Brazlian national team coach, he had to go to a “genuinely” big team, Corinthians, and all the credit for him being a top coach comes from his time at that hated club. In Brazil, to be a genuitnely big club, you have to be from Sao Paulo or Rio de Janeiro, so we fans of teams from “lesser” regions have a bit of a chip on the shoulder about that.
By the way, If it’s not obvious, I’m a much bigger fan of Gremio than of the Owls, but equally frustrated!