It's no disrespect to Phillip Hughes to get on with playing cricket

By Dylan Arvela / Roar Guru

The death of Phillip Hughes in such tragic circumstances galvanised the Australian community in a manner that is seldom seen. Since, there have been millions across the globe who have marked their respect for Hughes.

The impact upon Australian cricket was so great that the first Test match had to be rearranged. This is understandable as players, who would still be grieving, may or may not be in the right mental state.

Phillip Hughes’ family declared that his funeral would be the means to start a new chapter in an attempt to move on – and their bravery is to be commended.

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From that point though, what is too much respect, or to rephrase, what is unnecessary respect?

The first Test was moved to the Adelaide Oval, Hughes’ adopted home ground. The Australian players have 408, Hughes’ Test cap number, embroidered into their shirts, a nice touch. Both teams start the match with black armbands, as customary.

A 63 (the score Hughes made in his final innings) second applause, very moving. He was also made 13th man for the Test, fitting.

But when should we stop? The end of this Test match? The end of the series? The end of the summer?

Never?

I am not an expert on grief, but Phillip Hughes’ family wanted the funeral to be the turning of the page and the media seems desperate to keep the mourning process going.

David Warner, Michael Clarke and Steve Smith all played incredible knocks and on every stroke the commentators felt obliged to mention that these players were under immense psychological stress.

This is obvious. Their mate has recently died playing the game he loves, the game in which they are playing. The constant barrage, however, was and is not needed and will not aid the healing process.

It seems excessive. The journalists loved it because the headlines were writing themselves Clarke’s big ton for his little mate and Smith’s top knock for his good friend. How are people meant to move on when cricket is pushed out of focus?

The ABC Grandstand commentators also made some really strange remarks in regards to the armbands. The Australians made the decision to wear the black armbands for the whole Test, maybe even the summer but the Indian team decided to only wear them on Day 1.

This was brought up as a discussion on whether or not that was the right thing to do. Play was interrupted for large periods on Day 2 though this as a topic of conversation seemed quite off putting.

It is as if no one knows when it is appropriate to stop mentioning the passing of Phillip Hughes for fear of disrespecting the former Test opener. People need to understand that not mentioning him will not mean that people think any less of Hughes.

Due to the extensive character references over the last few weeks I am confident that Hughes would wish for commentators to return to commentating rather than blur the lines between commentating and providing a eulogy.

This is an unprecedented tragedy in regards to the media coverage and the social media aspect.

It seems that no one knows how to behave but the worst thing for everyone is for this to continue until the end of the summer and right through next year, as it isn’t turning a new page but reading the same book over again.

I was, am and always will be saddened by the terrible fate of Phillip Hughes but listening to the words of his friends and family, it seems he would want everyone to get on with the game – so let’s do that.

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The Crowd Says:

2014-12-11T12:48:56+00:00

Gareth Kidd

Roar Guru


I agree, but at the same time, different people greive in different ways. I think we just need to be patient, especially as these were his close mates, and in the case of Warner and a few others, were there when it happened.

2014-12-11T09:56:56+00:00

Kevin Johnson

Guest


C'mon,moving on isn't a solution when your heart dosen't want to move on.Its only the first test since his passing.And grief is visibly fading away with every moving day.Why are you in such a hurry to forget this.Fist test had to be special.Do you have a heart.I hate it when writers keep finding topics to write and behave like all they want is just a topic to write.A lot of people died in past.Do we remember them ?...we'll get on with it too with time.Time is the best healer.This tragedy has made aussie cricketers good people.Calling the first century since your mate's passing a tribute to him isn't a wrong thing at all.So,when time is healing,why are you in such a hurrry.Give Them Some Time please.

2014-12-11T06:17:51+00:00

jodie

Guest


I think people process and grieve differently - there is certainly still a sense of stunned disbelief and an incredible sadness regarding what has happened to Phillip Hughes - for his family, for his friends and for Australia in general.. 2014 has been a shocking year for tragedy and grief and Phillip Hughes death seemed to be a catalyst of our Nation's mourning for all that has occurred this year. I get why people seem to think there has been an extended length of time re morning his death being an overkill by the media - and I do feel for his parents and siblings constantly being bombarded by his face and actions being taken in his memory - but I for one I have to say dont mind what is happening with cricket - besides Phillips family - these people were the most impacted upon and affected - if they need to verbalise and attribute actions to Phillips memory ad nausem that's OK - its a healing process and not necessary (I dont believe) media spin - I hope they get to do all the rituals they need to to accept the fact that their mate is gone - at their own time and speed with no judgement being given. We pride ourselves as a National of mates, of loyalty of sacrifice and courage, Phillip Hughes by all accounts appears to have those qualities in spades - if those same characteristics are being shown by those to him who were closest in various ways - then so be it - for as long as they need to do it - these men of cricket have shown themselves to be men of courage - and I for one thank them for that

2014-12-11T00:22:36+00:00

Bandy

Roar Guru


Exactly my thoughts as play unfolded over the opening days and the topic was continuously repeated. Hughes seemed like the kind of bloke who would have wanted a simple send off and then for his mates to get on with the game. His death has really galvanised this country and the little battler will always be remembered, but cricket needs to keep moving forward in order to fully get over this tragedy.

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