Why Jelena calling out trolls is a win that runs deep after a career tarnished by off-court dramas created by others

By Zayda Dollie / Roar Rookie

Jelena Dokic spent the first eight years of her life in Croatia when it was part of the former Yugoslavia, not Serbia. That she was born and bred in Serbia is a common misconception – one of many that have been cemented in the eyes of the Australian public.

After hastily leaving Croatia and arriving in Serbia as a refugee, it was only then that Dokic learned to read and write the language, mastering the foreign script within a few weeks.

The escape to Serbia at age eight was her first experience as a refugee. The move to Australia at 11 years old made her a refugee for the second time.

Considered a prodigal talent, Dokic had been playing tennis from the age of six against girls considerably older than her – and beating them at that. But as she later wrote in her autobiography, her father, Damir Dokic, began physically and verbally abusing her in conjunction with the start of her budding tennis career. Her performances, whether good or bad, were the instigators of his violent tirades. Dokic said her tennis and the abuse she received from her father went hand in hand until the end of her career.

By the time the 11-year-old Dokic arrived in Australia in 1994, the women’s tennis scene was already heating up, particularly internationally. The era of Martina Hingis, Lindsay Davenport, Kim Clijsters and Amélie Mauresmo was about to see its peak, and legends like Monica Seles, Steffi Graf, Arantxa Sanchez Vicario and Mary Pierce were still playing, albeit in the twilight of their careers.

Dokic played against all of them, and phenomenally. She beat world No. 1 Hingis in her first round at Wimbledon. She was 16 years old.

Dokic advanced so quickly in the world of international tennis that she was ranked No. 4 in the world by the time she was 20 years old.

(Photo by Mark Kolbe/Getty Images)

Her achievements on the court have since been overshadowed by the turmoil that plagued her life off the court. This fact says as much about Jelena Dokic as it does about the Australian public and its media landscape back then.

That Dokic had an abusive father seems to be common knowledge, but the extent of the allegations – that she was hit each and every time she played, often with a leather belt, was forced to stand hours on end with no food or water, that the beatings were so brutal her entire back was often blue from bruises and her shins bore welts from kicks – is less spoken about.

Another aspect of having an abusive father is that for Dokic the public humiliation she had to endure because of her father’s behaviour was in many ways worse.

“The physical abuse I can handle behind closed doors. But this, the public carry-ons, is awful. It rocks me to my core. The embarrassment is worse than the physical abuse because the public meltdowns are out of my hands,” she wrote in her autobiography Unbreakable.

Damir Dokic, at the height of Jelena’s career, gained notoriety first for his screams from the sidelines, his pacing and smoking of pipes in stadiums when watching and eventually for his heavy drinking and full-blown outbursts at high-profile events.

The Australian press branded him more as a public nuisance than a threat, but the hold he had over Jelena Dokic was far more sinister. Though she was a rising star, it is easy to forget that at her peak she was just a 16 or 17-year-old girl under her father’s violent rule.

She was vilified by the public and media for spouting off conspiracy theories about the Women’s Tennis Association being rigged. The truth is, as revealed in her autobiography, Dokic was quite literally given a script to follow by her father before press conferences, forced to say his words and voice his criticisms and she complied knowing that if she didn’t, he would punish her violently.

At the time she still lived with her mother and younger brother and she feared the repercussions on all of them. Her mother continued to endure abuse from Damir Dokic. Her brother, a young child at the time, was witness to it all.

The role the Australian press played at the time seldom helped her cause. She says that her father, fuelled by attention, had a direct line to journalists, newspapers and television reporters and they called him liberally knowing they could easily get a sensationalist headline out of one of his rants.

For Jelena Dokic, her relationship with the Australian public and media suffered severely because of this. The climax came when her father, feeling scorned by Tennis Australia, forced her to renounce her citizenship and play instead under the Serbian flag. This is something she did but unwillingly – there was no alternative but to obey her abusive father.

The Australian press, by this stage fairly aware of the physical abuse that competitors and officials had been witnessing since Dokic was a junior champion, still did not take kindly to this. The public, in turn, ate it up.

She says of her match against Lindsay Davenport at the Australian Open in 2001 that she became the first player to be jeered walking out onto centre court. Of the boos she received before the match, she wrote, “This is the worst moment not only of my career but my life. It’s a terrible feeling to know that people who had once passionately willed me on are now sneering at me. I feel that I have let everyone down”.

It has taken Jelena Dokic years to repair her relationship with the public, the press and the Australian world of tennis that had once shut her out. Despite the fact that her father’s embarrassing behaviour and outright abuse singled her out from her peers, the feeling of being ‘othered’ is one that has run deep for her ever since her arrival as a child.

At her primary school in Sydney she was dubbed “mole face” and at a junior championship in Canberra, after asking to join the other junior players in a card game, she was told to “go back to your country”.

Throughout her meteoric rise as a 13-year-old playing and winning under-18s tournaments, she says parents were very quick to point out that she was taking spots that other players deserved, exploiting scholarship opportunities and receiving an unfair advantage, all because she had arrived as a refugee, spoke with a mild accent and was simply ‘different’.

It seems that now, as a commentator, TV personality and someone who conducts interviews with players rather than reluctantly giving them, Dokic is no longer cursed by the feeling of otherness.

While online trolls, notably from Serbia but also within Australia, have recently criticised her with taunts about her weight and body as well as her mental health struggles – she has previously admitted to having suicidal thoughts – the Australian media have shown support.

Where once headlines of her father’s most recent embarrassments were news, the Australian media now defend her stance, her story and her as a human being, not just as a former athlete who once wore the green and gold at the Sydney Olympics.

The vulnerabilities of young players have always been a concern, no less now than they were a decade ago. Mistakes were made not only by the associations and authorities in tennis but by the Australian press, perfectly captured by Richard Hinds’s admission “we should have done more”. These errors, however, have hopefully paved the way for the next generation of young athletes to receive the protection they deserve.

At the very least, the fact that Jelena Dokic can now speak openly, publicly, with and in her own voice, is a sign of how much has changed for the better.

The Crowd Says:

2023-01-29T00:36:24+00:00

Lara

Guest


This young lady deserves the best, she was an amazing talent on the court n had the potential for a fantastic career......all the best.

2023-01-26T07:01:44+00:00

Kashmir Pete

Roar Guru


Nice article. Thanks. KP

2023-01-26T04:15:11+00:00

Bruno

Roar Rookie


So she has an accent and is factually overweight and not attractive enough for you? Also you're comparing her commentary to a cooking show. Give her a break. Look up magnanimity big boy, life is too short.

2023-01-26T02:35:14+00:00

Simoc

Roar Rookie


If these trolls were identifiable they would be gone tomorrow. The cowards of society. But though many seemed to know what was going on no-one could stop it. I feel today that in a similar situation nothing has changed. The kids like Jelena are their parents lifeline in some cases. Hopefully none are worse than hers. But what could anyone have done in her circumstances regarding her father. As for the trolls, the feeble underbelly of society that politicians seem reluctant to expose. Name and shame them so we can all target them for what they are! The s um of society.

2023-01-26T01:31:47+00:00

Grand Panjandrum

Guest


Life hint: If you don't want people to think you are a cretin, then probably stop mounting arguments citing reality TV shows as your evidence. Also, considering the tennis is on Channel 9, if people decide not to watch the tennis on Channel 7 because Dokic is fat, then they are possibly (although not certainly) dumber than you.

2023-01-25T06:54:53+00:00

Winston

Guest


Her commentary is terrible. Her voice is at an awkward register and she also has an accent. She also often continues to talk when play has started, something more experienced commentators deliberately avoid. I do not rate her as a commentator. As for her weight, factually she is overweight though. It's one thing to say people should be nice, but if there is someone on TV and the point of that person on TV is to attract people to watch that channel and program, then whatever the audience says is correct isn't it? Think Gordon Ramsay's Kitchen Nightmares. How many of those restaurant owners disagree with Gordon and think their food is great? But if no customer agrees, what's the point? Dokic may well be right in shooting down trolls, but if audience decides not to watch channel 7 because they prefer someone more attractive presenting a program, that is also well within the rights of the audience. By extension, if an audience member is saying, "I don't enjoy watching the tennis on channel 7 because Dokic is fat," it is also completely fair enough.

2023-01-25T03:43:34+00:00

matth

Roar Guru


Thank you for this and thank you Ms Dokic for calling out a line abuse.

2023-01-25T02:05:49+00:00

Mary Kuric

Guest


Jelena is a superstar in her own right. For whatever reason life took her down the path it did...she has come out of it as an incredible human being. She has put the light on abuse, mental health issues and how inaccurate the media can portray what is really happening. Her path in life has helped many others, done more for society....this is better than winning a grand slam.

2023-01-24T23:39:14+00:00

Barb Dwyer

Roar Rookie


Fantastic player and excellent commentator. It seems that we have some people in society who in order to feel big, need to cut others down. It's a reflection on the trolls and nothing else.

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